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Older Man. THE BLOG I have a great, solid relationship with my dad and have no issues there. It's really a You are concerned that a 15 year age difference may be a "terrible idea" or "setting yourself up for future failure. Age gap relationships (or “spring-autumn” relationships) may come in for criticism Read more at Suite Age Gap Relationships: Partners' Different Ages Make I came across this post and this blog about two weeks ago. But the significant age difference didn't impede the attraction either of us felt. Over several months, our relationship slowly progressed.
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I speak from experience. In my twenties, I dated a man who was eleven years my senior and it was great until I realized I was living vicariously through him. I wanted to be where he was in his life - accomplished, more confident, and all the other things that come with additional years on the planet.
What I realized is that I was trying to skip over my own twenty-something experience by coat-tailing his life. Sure, we had the same kind of connection you speak about and I really did feel like we were kindred sprits in a lot of ways; however, the unavoidable truth was that we were at very different points of our lives.
Dating an older man can be an ego boost since being wanted by someone older makes you feel more mature. I share this with you because I encourage you to ask yourself if some of his appeal lies in the simple fact that he is older. Furthermore, other than the very obvious reasons, why is a year-old dating a year-old? Has he ever been married or in a serious committed relationship?
Think about your needs and growth. Do you want to spread your wings and live the carefree singles life for a while, or are you looking to settle down into the lifestyle that he has spent the past two decades creating?
Since I realize my advice is very one-sided, and I really don't know anything about you or your love interest, I want to offer you a different perspective.
I forwarded your question to Dr. Here is what she had to say: Age is just a number, but love, connection, values, compatibility and chemistry are real. And by the way, they are real hard to find in one person, so thank your lucky stars that you have found your soul mate. Celebrate your union and enjoy each moment you spend together. A word of caution though, if you think and anticipate failure, you will surely achieve it!
Some say love is blind and ageless, but a sustainable relationship is built on a lot more than just love alone. It takes a certain amount of compatibility to carry you through the decades ahead. A 15 year age difference is significant. Just think about having children in your thirties, and chasing around toddlers with a man in his late forties. I hear that you are an old soul, but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to date someone significantly older to meet your "soul-match. But bottom-line, you are the only one who really knows if this relationship is a fit.
Not to mention that in the eyes of such observers, every problem you might have, no matter how insignificant, will automatically be the result of your age difference.
Also, the society is still less accepting of women dating older men than men dating older women. The important thing is not to let the inconsiderate remarks get to you.
The best way to deal with these remarks is to think of a simple and polite way to shut them down and move on with your life.
On Dating An Older Man
They might be a bit too controlling or acting as if they have all the answers. The reasons vary — they could be jealous of your youth, or there may be some deeper issues at hand. If they start patronizing you in front of other people though, it certainly becomes a serious problem. The best way to deal with this problem is to communicate. Explain how their behavior makes you feel, try to understand the reasons behind their actions and see if you can work out the solution together.
After all, age does not equal maturity so the fact that you are younger than your partner is not a reason for them to treat you any differently than they would treat somebody their own age.
They will come around when they see how happy you are together. Your boyfriend and your dad may even become best friends as they are closer in age than your partner and you. Another important thing to keep in mind is not to hesitate.
You might not be able to convince them to take your relationship seriously right away, but you can show them that you yourself are completely serious about it.